Irene Andersen, Swedish Bodybuilder
This is just wrong on so many levels.
Obviously, someone, somewhere, thinks this look  is attractive. But I seriously doubt that includes anyone in the regular Rule 5 crowd.  Anyone? Anyone? Bueller?
I’m not …..

Bullhockey. If you can see cleavage, they’re not covered up.

Besides, Cassy’s point was not that this person is upset at comments, it’s that she felt the need to post about it on a large blog site, specifically in the first person framework. If it were a more clinical, analytical approach to speaking about how people could be more considerate of others, who may not appreciate their dubious attempts at humor, I think Cassy would probably have agreed with her. Instead, she ranted about herself in particular, and included her umbrage against certain comments which were probably aimed at getting her to present herself more modestly, so as not to be a disruption (e.g. “Put them away”). All in all, it was just a childish rant, both in tone and in the assumptions inherent in the language.

I don’t have any use for juvenile commentary such as “you could swipe a credit card through there,” any more than she does, but I realize that people are going to act like jackasses, and don’t let it bother me. If it is people who should know better, such as friends, she needs to tell them in person.

I totally agree with this statement. For Cassy to hate feminists so much, she sure does go to their site a lot. And one of the biggest feminists blogs at that.

Why do you feel the need to ridicule posts to Feministing Community? Does doing so make you feel better about yourself?

FC is a widely diverse group of people discussing issues that relate, more or less, to feminism. If you are looking for blogs with strong focus on feminist theory, there are better choices than this one. (You could try http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/ but your head would probably explode. A better choice might be http://pandagon.net/ where posts from some of your favorite sources, including Michelle Malkin and Ace of Spades, are sometimes discussed.)

Returning to the topic at hand, many people contributed comments to the discussion similar to your “Either learn to deal with it or cover up more” comment. The original poster reiterated that which I found to be clear in the OP: She usually does cover up completely; this makes little difference. Also your dismissal of the severity of the comments she receives was offensive.

The OP was basically venting about inappropriate remarks. She wasn’t looking to get a law passed. I realize that antiabortion-rights types sometimes find it difficult to understand that some people espouse views without intending that those views be codified into law.

(I came across your blog by Googling for anti-Planned Parenthood rants. It was just dumb luck that I found one that uses Feministing and FC, where I am a member, as material for ridiculing feminism.)

I once had a very wise friend tell me that he likes looking at boobs, especially on the girls around him. Not in any kind of lustful way but in the way that they can almost be the ultimate accessory. If somebody’s wearing a great pair of earrings or a great necklace, you’d notice. It’d almost be rude not to. But, you also wouldn’t ogle it with lust or make a comment on “wow, that’s a great necklace, but wouldn’t that money be better spent feeding starving children in Africa?”

Making comments about somebody’s breasts is very rude, as is ogling them, and a sharp retort is always appropriate for such an encounter. However, taking offense to somebody saying “honey, they’re beautiful but you’re about to slip a nip” or “You’re lingerie is beautiful but I’m not sure it was meant for public view” is like somebody telling you your fly is open or your lapel pin is upside down. Yep, they noticed, and they’ve taken the time to tell you so you can further avoid any over exposure.

I don’t think Phoebe gets that and it’s a real shame. Instead of bitching about it on your blog, sharpen your mind and wits and learn something.

I’ve turned away on occasion, and I’ve noticed other guys doing so, too. It can actually be embarrassing to have do deal with people who dress inappropriately in some social situations. Awkward comments may indicate peoples’ poor efforts at relieving stress.