Comments on: Putting out is SO much better for girls than abstinence.

By: John

John — Mon, 18 Jul 2011 05:34:36 +0000

Also, for the people who say that abstinence is the rage and purity rings are “in” (I’m looking at you feministing posters) . . . like wtf? That’s a lie. You people are picking a weak ass argument which is a strawman. America’s media is more liberal than conservative, and more and more kids are having sex in high school. Individualism seems pretty darn great on paper, but if we’re SO involved with ourselves we forget about society. Newsflash: the world doesn’t revolve around you and if it America is fucked. Misguided feminism is laughable. Give me a woman who is humble and fights for equal rights, opportunity, and pay.

By: John

John — Mon, 18 Jul 2011 04:59:30 +0000

@ Eddie: Um, what’s weird is that you visit a site that clearly doesn’t share your view, and you fail to recognize ANY redeeming qualities the author brings up, if there is any.

I can play the same game. I guess you’re a liberal so anyone who doesn’t agree with you must be close-minded.

Grow up.

By: eddie

eddie — Sun, 12 Sep 2010 20:43:51 +0000

this is disgusting. whoever wrote this article has completely got the wrong end of the stick. Jessica does not want to turn teenage girls into ‘raging whores’ (incidentally calling a girl who has sex a whore or a slut is chauvanistic and degrading. espescially while they are [presumably] have sex with teenage boys whom i notice do not get a mention or a degrading nametag.)Jessica is advocating freedom of choice. she is not saying go out and get picked up by some creep in a bar. She is saying if you feel comfortable fine, it is your choice. and by hooking up she means casual sex with a friend (again not a creep) for pleasures sake and not because they should, and as for the bullshit about 12 year olds making their own decisions and having sex? HELLO?!?! thats fucking illegal!!! so how the hell do you think jessica would possibly be saying that? she is talking about mature adults.

i also find it disturbing that the article is in favour of purity balls. a 12 year old has no concept of sexual relationships so how is it fair for parents to make them sign their virginity away? then if the girls do in later life have sex they are damned, scorned, treated like dirt, and given the good ol’ label of slut leading to insecurities and anxiety. Well done. you’re sick.

this entire article is just trash bigoted against womens’ right to control over their lives and bodies, i have heard it repeated inumerable times by ever kind of lowlife chauvanist. girls who have sex are sluts, women who advocate a womans right to have sex outside marriage are sluts… anyone who does not fit your redneck system is a slut. unless then they’re a boy in which case ‘oh-ho nudge wink just sowing his wild oats eh? chortle’ this disgusts me.

Grow up.

By: JustAGirl

JustAGirl — Sat, 11 Sep 2010 20:52:37 +0000

What really bugs me in this article is the way the author uses the word “feminist”. Nowadays, being feminist has a negative subtext; people forget that being a feminist means you want equal rights for women. It does NOT mean that you’re one of those people who think the color pink is discriminating girls.
In spite of articles like these, I am still proud to call myself a feminist.

By: Mike from True Tech

Mike from True Tech — Fri, 10 Sep 2010 23:42:32 +0000

Saw this on reddit. Not sure I understand the insistence that girls remain virgins before marriage.

By: Maria

Maria — Fri, 10 Sep 2010 20:56:14 +0000

While I agree that young girls and women shouldn’t be encouraged to sleep around, I really don’t think it has anything to do with you whether they decide to or not. If it is purely their own choice and not something they are pressured in to, then who are you to call them whores and sluts? It is not harming you in anyway. It’s their bodies so just leave them to it. Sex is a natural thing and a need that everyone has. Some people just like it and need it a lot more than others. In my own opinion, as long as people aren’t hurting anyone by doing it, e.g. cheating, breaking up families, abortion after abortion etc, then why put them down for it? Get off your high horse and accept others for the way they are.
In before all the hate comments about me probably being a ‘slut’ myself: I am a virgin, but have many friends who are deemed sluts. They aren’t hurting anybody and it fucks me off when I hear people bad mouth them.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Fri, 10 Sep 2010 08:20:47 +0000

Oh, and one last thing. I think we should hold the same standards (keeping their legs closed) for guys too. It’s not right to tell girls to keep their legs closed, and then just say “well it’s in guy’s nature to have sex” I have sexual urges, and so does every woman. I think THAT’S the biggest problem today. Teaching girls that girls don’t really think like that, only guys do. Oh, having problems with porn and masturbation? Only guys do that. Girls are taught that they aren’t supposed to have thoughts like that. They keep them inside and wonder why they are the only ones like that. That’s when they screw up and have sex…

By: Michelle

Michelle — Fri, 10 Sep 2010 08:19:54 +0000

I am a Christian, 19 year old girl.

I can see both good and bad on both sides…I see what the author is saying: Women should know they are still are people if they lose their virginity. I can also see how there can be an unhealthy obsession with virginity. Like girls who made promises to be vigins, screwed up, and then their parents throw them out and want nothing to do with them? that’s not healthy, and neither is scaring your children by saying sex is bad and so is sexuality.

BUT: I do believe that having parents that talk about sex and explain it and not act like it’s a terrible thing, or scare them with it, is good. i believe that abstinence is the only 100% guarantee that you can be STD free.

ALSO: I am very confused why all you people who are so worried about girls are calling the same girls you are worried about “sluts” and saying they’re “slutting around”… and calling people standing up for their opinions “disgusting and reprehensible”. You won’t win them over by calling them names, but with love.

By: Angharad

Angharad — Fri, 10 Sep 2010 06:18:56 +0000

I couldn’t agree more with this post. Have you read “A Return to Modesty” by Wendy Shallot? I found this two years ago and absolutely loved it–it expresses it fun, engaging, extremelely insightful language and research exactly what you have so eloquently written here. Well done!

By: Corinne

Corinne — Thu, 09 Sep 2010 00:33:20 +0000

I agree, I think, that the obsessive stance on chastity in this country is hurting young women.
In Europe, no one really gives a shit if you’re drinking under the age of 21. And guess what? Less of them end up with serious alcohol problems. It’s not seen as this great mysterious thing, that only the magical 21 year olds can so much as possess.
I think if we stop telling our young girls that the moment they open their legs that they’re doomed to hell, less girls will sleep around.