Comments on: Why do women shun single older men?

By: Chuck

Chuck — Fri, 26 Nov 2010 17:00:17 +0000

I am 57 and divorced for 7 yrs now. I have been married twice so I guess you could say I don’t or didn’t have a fear of commitment. I do now though. My first wife of 5 yrs walked out all of a sudden while I was literally building our house. I was apparently working too hard at my office and on the house and she got bored. That cost me $80K. I was single then for 6 yrs and it took me that long to find someone that I thought was compatible. We were married for 15 yrs, had two beautiful children, a paid for home, good jobs, etc. Then she hit her mid-life crisis, had an affair and asked me for a divorce. That cost me half my time with my children and $150K. I am a nice guy, don’t smoke, drink, have no temper, work hard, pay my bills and keep myself fit at 180#’s. The only thing I have been guilty of is maybe being boring. I have recovered quite well financially and have a country home on 50 acres and a summer cottage up north. I would love to have a life partner. The loneliness can be almost unbearable at times. I just can’t set myself up for another emotional and financial hit like that. Especially here in Wisconsin which is a community property state. I have known way to many guys that have married what seemed like a real sweet woman just to have her change her mind after a year and gut him like a fish. It’s not that we are afraid to commit. It’s that we’re afraid to bet our remaining life savings and work on the mental stability of a menopausal woman. And FYI guys, prenups are easily voided and most have an expiration date.

By: mina

mina — Sat, 12 Jun 2010 02:54:04 +0000

The men here sounds like they are men with poor qualities. I am a 37 years old professional woman making over 100 thousand dollars a year. My two other girlfriends are all my age who are doctors making over 100 thousand dollars a year. And we are all less than 120lbs 5ft4in not bad looking at all…I know we are nice looking because men always look at us and smile as we walk down the street…However..it is next to impossible to find men who are professional,educated, and wants commitment in a relationship. We already decided to go for adoption for kids in another few years without men.
I think professional women are much more likely to stay single..and it is all because there is a lack of qualified good men.

By: JA

JA — Mon, 07 Jun 2010 01:12:46 +0000

Well I just hit 40 this year (2010)and for a long time I haven’t had any female prospects. I guess maybe because this is because I have seemingly jumped from 1 career to the next and that makes me unstable. Even when I was earning decent money in my 30s though, I never had a serious relationship-except a 1 year plus with a 45 year old single mom. I’ve tried to hook up with younger women whom I knew were single but they didn’t want my kind. Now that I’m 40 well I guess I shouldn’t need to worry anymore. I wouldn’t want to spend the rest of my life all alone but that is what it’s looking like.

By: Hiwayman

Hiwayman — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 03:59:07 +0000

Agreed Been there ( message 46)I’ve been married/divorced 2 times now. Single for 22 years.You youngsters need to look wayyyyyyy past the BS these wymen try and sell and look at te facts.
1) the divorce rate is over 50 % now. And 80% are started by wymen.
2) tp get involved legally with any female make very sure you have a grat job and tons of money.( It will take 10-20k for a 1/2 way desent lawyer)
3) Google up Parental Alienation Syndrome and read it well. Both my ex’s poisoned my kids minds. It took me 30 years to finally figure out what went wrong. The courts could care less. So in the end all it was about was playing me for my money.( the same thing wymen do all te time).
4) So you think it won’t happen to you. Ask any guy who was ever divor ced and ask him if he ever thought he would end up divorced.
5) Pre-Nups don’t work when kids are involved.

By: Been there

Been there — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 07:37:25 +0000

P.S. I will suggest you read 31,32 and 33 here…There’s a lot of truth and experience in those entries. I vote for a marriage strike.
Let’s see the women of the world get the things they want without fleecing the men to get it.

Women shun older men because we’re on to the games and manipulations and we don’t fall for the tricks as easily as younger less experienced guys. We’re harder to fool and they know that, in about ten seconds after meeting us. Then they move on to easier prey.

By: Been there

Been there — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 07:12:39 +0000

Hi All

Here’s my two bits…
I’m a 47 soon to be 48 year old man, Survivor of two marriages. The first was to a woman who after 14 years of marriage told me that the only reason she married me was because she thought I could fix her Bi-polar disorder and by the way openly admitted that she never loved me…A hard pill to swallow. She left with half of everything and a healthy chunk of money from my 401K then filed bankruptcy forcing me to do the same or lose everything.

Wife number two, was a much shorter affair. We married and she immediately started trying to persuade me to sell my home and property which I had been paying for, for 15 years, I finally agreed and we moved. 21 days later on our 4th wedding anniversary she told me she wanted a divorce and since I had turned all my premarital assets into cash, they became marital assets and she was entitled to half…Which the courts gave her. 15 years of scrimping and saving so the courts could give half of my net worth to her…Nice!

My point? All the modern women think is…
If I can get him to give me two kids and a house..I don’t need him anymore, Because the courts will make sure he pays for it whether he’s here or not.

Just ask a woman out and see how long it takes for her to steer the conversation toward what you do for a living, What kind of car you drive and hint about how much your worth… Keep careful track…
It’s your life your protecting and the security your building right now is what will determine your lifestyle and security later….
Don’t throw caution to the wind based on the words she says..Rather pay attention to the things she askes and does.

Does she at least offer to help with the tab? Or does she fumble with her lipstick when the bill comes…HMMMMM!

One last thing…Don’t let her confuse the word gentleman with beneficiary…

By: J David

J David — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 16:47:31 +0000

To “Dave”…

I came to same conclusion as your friend a LONG time ago, except I am not “alone” per se, I am just free of female encumbrance. Instead of alone, actually, in my present state I can be with ANYONE rather than just whom SHE “approves of”…

Rather than having a built-in chaperon/censor that has squeezed my world down into a tiny little circle, of which my family-in-law is the center, I have the ENTIRE WORLD at my disposal.

By: Cylar

Cylar — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 11:05:22 +0000

Firehand & John….Sad guys, just sad. I’ve got pity & compassion for you more than anything else. ButI stand by what I said. A shame you got tangled up with the shrews and not the good women. They ARE out there if you care to look.

And again, stop with this. Seriously. You’re going to make the young guys think all women are nasty and greedy. Don’t spoil courtship and marriage for them, OK? We know the real problem is with the court system.

By: Dave

Dave — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 19:35:11 +0000

A very good friend gave me this bit of advice: It’s better to be alone than to wish you were alone.

By: Firehand

Firehand — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 19:12:03 +0000

Cylar, it’s not simply money: it’s things they’ve put together over the years and things they do they fear losing. You can call it good or bad, but the concern is real; there’s been too many guys taken to the cleaners to ignore it.

I’d not suggest looking askance at your lady, lots of people marry till death do them part, and are quite happy with it.

As to the ‘the kids eventually think them a saint’, that’s all very nice, but in the meantime those guys have lost years, sometimes decades, of their kids growing up. That’s no small thing.