Comments on: Sports? Roller coasters? Oh, what IS a poor girl to do?!

By: Ray

Ray — Sat, 31 May 2008 16:40:58 +0000

She wasn’t talking about first dates, just dates. If she doesn’t like his recommended date idea, or going on a date with no idea of where he is going to take her, why go? It’s simple communication and having an open mind. If she can not communicate her interests, or isn’t open to experiencing and understanding something he enjoys, she shouldn’t be wasting his time.

By: smg45acp

smg45acp — Fri, 30 May 2008 12:57:57 +0000

I give praise and thanks to God for not letting me ever have to go on a date with such high maintenance spoiled little brat as the writer of this article.
The whole purpose of dating is to find someone that you have things in common with to see if you have the potential for a lasting relationship.
The goal should never be to pretend to be somebody you aren’t just to impress them so you can get another date.
Be yourself. Your date is going to see it sooner or later. If she doesn’t like what she sees and dumps you after the first date that’s great. Better now than after you have invested a year in the relationship by propping it up lies and pretending to be what you think she wants instead of who you really are.

By: Stephen J.

Stephen J. — Tue, 20 May 2008 03:51:09 +0000

I can appreciate that the tone of the article may be a bit high-handed, and certainly the specific examples are less universal among women than the writer may think; but honestly, I’d have to say the basic advice remains sound – though I’ll put in some caveats that would probably have been helpful.

Boiled down to where the useful content shines through, you get:

1) Don’t take a first date someplace where she’ll get the impression you’re more focused on what you’re doing than on her — UNLESS: you are already friends and you already know of a common interest you share, and will have fun doing it together.

2) Don’t take a first date someplace that gives the impression you’ve only thought about what *you’ll* enjoy and not about what *she’ll* enjoy — UNLESS: she has already explicitly expressed interest in finding out about something you like doing and is willing to take a fair crack at it. (And if after she’s tried it, she decides she doesn’t like it, respect that decision.)

3) Don’t take a first date somewhere that suggests you’re more concerned about minimizing expenses than enjoying her company — UNLESS: you and she have already discussed mutual financial situations (within reason) and understand that a chain restaurant is not an insult.

4) Don’t give a new dating partner the impression that your good opinion of her is conditional on other peoples’ good opinion of her, like your mother’s or your friends’ — UNLESS… well, no, there’s not even really an “unless” here; the closest real caveat is if you *do* want other people to think as well of her as you do (and that’s not a bad thing in itself), be prepared to accept, after explaining why you’re asking her to make a good impression, that:

–(a): she may not agree with your desire to impress your other Important People;

–(b): if she doesn’t, you may have to choose between her and them; which is tough, but that’s life.

By: Ed

Ed — Sun, 18 May 2008 17:10:00 +0000

Nicole uses “We” alot in her article like she has some kind of experience in the subject.

I predict she’ll be lonely into her child bearing years and later to to women for love.

By: Denise

Denise — Sat, 17 May 2008 09:37:00 +0000

I’m sure glad my husband didn’t read this list. We often went to Worlds of Fun in Kansas City, even though he hated the roller coasters. We both really enjoyed (and still do) action-adventure movies and sci-fi (saw Star Wars at least 10 times). We got engaged at McDonalds after playing miniature golf. But what do we know? We’ve only been married 31, almost 32 years!

By: Uriah

Uriah — Sat, 17 May 2008 07:41:00 +0000

I use the first few dates for screening purposes. If our tastes in entertainment are too different, the relationship is pretty much doomed. If I find a girl that will go to the pistol range with me on the first date, I’m gonna marry her.

By: Jarrod

Jarrod — Sat, 17 May 2008 03:53:00 +0000

I take girls on a first date to watch the local major league baseball team. If they can’t fight through that (especially since they haven’t historically been all that good) then it’s not worth it.

If things go well and she’s into the baseball and has a nice personality and whatnot then I know I’ve got a keeper. If she’s just insufferable…well at least I’m at a game and life’s always better at the ballpark.

If it’s not baseball season then the action happens at this great Mexican place with a mariachi band. If a girl doesn’t dig mariachi then she’s just not worth it.

By: realbaddude

realbaddude — Fri, 16 May 2008 21:36:00 +0000

Cassie,

You nailed the girl one, so ’nuff said on that. The guy one was obviously written by a metro girly-man, without an ounce of class. Oh, DON’T take us hiking…there might be bugs. Ooooo, ickey. There might be coyotes. I’m SCARED!!! Waaa, I don’t wanna dress up and go hear some fat guy sing in a foreign language. I wanna dress all gangsta and listen to some tone deaf moron wail about his hos an’ bitches…

A real man would take bug spray into the great outdoors, and have enough firepower to deal with a freakin’ coyote (or a pack of wolves, as far as that goes) for Pete’s sake. As for getting dressed up and injecting some culture into your life – why not (especially if your lady is into it). Geez dude, grow up.

By: wigmon

wigmon — Fri, 16 May 2008 20:53:00 +0000

I guess the strip club with your buddies is definitely out for this up tight chick huh?

By: A.G. Clifton

A.G. Clifton — Fri, 16 May 2008 19:54:00 +0000

Can we go to Six Flags with your mom? Ha, or paintballin’ with our exes?